If John Cho were your boyfriend, whenever you suffered a personal or professional setback, he would remind you to be kind and patient with yourself, respecting your process as you worked through your feelings, and would instinctively know the moment you were ready to talk about it. He would bring you a glass of excellent red wine and sit next to you so your shoulders were touching and wrap his strong, supple fingers around yours and say, “You know, I know what it’s like when things don’t go your way, no matter how hard you work or how great you are,” and you would say, “I know you do, babe,” and neither of you would mention Selfie by name, but you’d both be thinking about it. [more at source]